Why do women love confusing, “mysterious, complicated men? What is it about these guys that drives women so crazy?
I have a pet peeve that I need to talk about.
We need to stop calling guys “complicated.”
Not that there aren’t complicated guys out there! In fact, I’ve known guys that I would absolutely describe as “complicated.”
No, that’s not my problem with it.
My problem with the word “complicated” is that it’s not being used as a description, it’s being used as an excuse.
A guy who acts like a total piece of crap towards you isn’t “complicated”… he’s a total piece of crap.
why is this so hard for some people to accept?
That’s why I’ve created this helpful reference post. These are 6 behaviors that do not mean he’s complicated – they mean he’s a huge douche.
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1. Everything is amazing between you – until he flips everything around and suddenly things are terrible
Ever have this happen to you?
Things are going amazing with a guy, you’re really connecting with him, you’re starting to allow yourself to see a future with him…
And then he withdraws and claims that “he needs space”, or “it’s overwhelming” for him, or “he likes you too much…”
God that’s a huge load of garbage.
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It’s a relationship, not a haunted house! He’s not afraid of getting into a deeper relationship with you, he just wants a convenient excuse to scale things back and keep things casual.
Don’t give him one. Any guy who would claim to be “scared” of getting more serious in a relationship is a huge douche who’s not worth your time.
2. You have to put in tons of effort and disregard your feelings to accommodate his “quirks”
At the beginning of the relationship, he just seems so deep! There’s just so much to him – of course he seems confusing to you.
But then… things start getting more difficult. You find yourself walking on eggshells around him because you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing and ruining his “vibe”.
You know who needs everyone around him to “get him” and needs everyone to bend over backwards around him because he’s so sensitive?
A huge blowhard egotistical jerk.
The right guy isn’t going to bore you with hours of talk about how sensitive he is and how hard it is to deal with his emotions. That’s because the right guy isn’t a douche.
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3. He tries to excuse bad behavior because “he’s depressed”
Are you serious?
You didn’t text your ex because you’re depressed. You didn’t ignore me because you’re depressed. You didn’t piss me off and then not apologize because you’re depressed.
You did it because you’re a huge douche, and then you tried to make a really crappy excuse.
Guys who are manipulative and who don’t care about other people’s feelings will try to use the “I’m depressed” excuse because they think no one can call them out on it.
Everyone goes through rough patches and hard times, it doesn’t mean that’s an excuse for treating someone like garbage.
A decent person doesn’t take out their bad moods on other people – and neither should your s/o. If he does – he’s a douche.
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4. He tries to lower the commitment level of the relationship by claiming he “can’t give you what you need and deserve…”
A lot of women respond positively to this line. “Oh, he’s so thoughtful, he knows that he can’t give me what I really need and he’s telling me up front, how considerate.”
How full of crap.
When a guy says that to you, he’s telling you he’s a lazy piece of crap who isn’t willing to put in the effort it would take to actually make you happy in a relationship.
He thinks that he can avoid being blamed for being a spoiled lazy douche by telling you he knows you deserve more, but he can’t actually give it to you because… he’s a spoiled lazy douche.
Don’t let him off the hook. Just