Why do women love confusing, “mysterious, complicated men? What is it about these guys that drives women so crazy?
I have a pet peeve that I need to talk about.
We need to stop calling guys “complicated.”
Not that there aren’t complicated guys out there! In fact, I’ve known guys that I would absolutely describe as “complicated.”
No, that’s not my problem with it.
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My problem with the word “complicated” is that it’s not being used as a description, it’s being used as an excuse.
A guy who acts like a total piece of crap towards you isn’t “complicated”… he’s a total piece of crap.
why is this so hard for some people to accept?
That’s why I’ve created this helpful reference post. These are 6 behaviors that do not mean he’s complicated – they mean he’s a huge douche.
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1. Everything is amazing between you – until he flips everything around and suddenly things are terrible
Ever have this happen to you?
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Things are going amazing with a guy, you’re really connecting with him, you’re starting to allow yourself to see a future with him…
And then he withdraws and claims that “he needs space”, or “it’s overwhelming” for him, or “he likes you too much…”
God that’s a huge load of garbage.
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It’s a relationship, not a haunted house! He’s not afraid of getting into a deeper relationship with you, he just wants a convenient excuse to scale things back and keep things casual.
Don’t give him one. Any guy who would claim to be “scared” of getting more serious in a relationship is a huge douche who’s not worth your time.
2. You have to put in tons of effort and disregard your feelings to accommodate his “quirks”
At the beginning of the relationship, he just seems so deep! There’s just so much to him – of course he seems confusing to you.
But then… things start getting more difficult. You find yourself walking on eggshells around him because you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing and ruining his “vibe”.
You know who needs everyone around him to “get him” and needs everyone to bend over backwards around him because he’s so sensitive?
A huge blowhard egotistical jerk.
The right guy isn’t going to bore you with hours of talk about how sensitive he is and how hard it is to deal with his emotions. That’s because the right guy isn’t a douche.
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3. He tries to excuse bad behavior because “he’s depressed”
Are you serious?
You didn’t text your ex because you’re depressed. You didn’t ignore me because you’re depressed. You didn’t piss me off and then not apologize because you’re depressed.
You did it because you’re a huge douche, and then you tried to make a really crappy excuse.
Guys who are manipulative and who don’t care about other people’s feelings will try to use the “I’m depressed” excuse because they think no one can call them out on it.
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Everyone goes through rough patches and hard times, it doesn’t mean that’s an excuse for treating someone like garbage.
A decent person doesn’t take out their bad moods on other people – and neither should your s/o. If he does – he’s a douche.
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4. He tries to lower the commitment level of the relationship by claiming he “can’t give you what you need and deserve…”
A lot of women respond positively to this line. “Oh, he’s so thoughtful, he knows that he can’t give me what I really need and he’s telling me up front, how considerate.”
How full of crap.
When a guy says that to you, he’s telling you he’s a lazy piece of crap who isn’t willing to put in the effort it would take to actually make you happy in a relationship.
He thinks that he can avoid being blamed for being a spoiled lazy douche by telling you he knows you deserve more, but he can’t actually give it to you because… he’s a spoiled lazy douche.
Don’t let him off the hook. Just … (continued – Click to keep reading 6 Signs Which Mean That That “Complicated” Guy Is Actually A Huge Douche-Nozzle)
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I found my husband text another women saying..trying not to complicate your life and “things” especially now. Believe me your in my mind daily mulipty time.
I’m so confuse what he doing.
This. Is. Awesome!!!!!
The problem with this article is it’s a bit extreme. A lot of people (not just men) have these tendencies, and to much lesser degrees.
I have problem #4 sometimes. Yeah it sucks, but I’m aware of it, and I try not to let it control my actions. But sometimes I genuinely think that I am not good enough for the girl I’m dating and have a bit of a panic attack. It doesn’t mean I’m trying to manipulate her. But I can see how it might seem that way to an observer.
LOL. Such a funny post. I went with a guy that was like this BUT not right away. It was almost a joke like 6 months into the relationship when everything changed and to this day, I still cannot figure that guy out.
It has been my experience that guys like this are major jerks as well. I am not sure if it is the drama they create or what, but I generally can only stand a person like this for a few hours.
Very sad list :) We all know there are guys out there, but what I cannot figure out is whether or not they really know they are this type of person?
Douche nozzles need to stay away! LOL. I like this post, but the sad thing is that people like this are around us all!
LOL. There are so many douche bags where I am from it is out of hand. It is almost like there is something in the water and the disease is spreading.
LOL, I think it is sad that we all know someone that fits these types of descriptions :)
I would have to say that this is a pretty good list, however, I know guys that fit this description, but do not show these signs. Looks can be deceiving for sure!
Any guy that is going to blame a woman for being too dramatic and controlling has other issues.
It is amazing that a man could be so much like this and still wonder why they are single. LOL. In my mind, they are no different than an over dramatic woman that thinks the world revolves around her.
Well, I must say this was a nice little LOL. I have met guys like this, but since they would turn me off right away, I don’t think I would ever have to worry about any relationship forming.
This is the sad part about guys. You will meet at least a handful that are just like this.
I feel the same way, I even considered moving to another city just to see if the scene is different in other places.
A douche nozzle? LOL, that is funny. Thank you for posting this, it got me through my Monday!
Yeah, if you are dealing with one the THESE guys, you have issues and should be on your way out of that relationship.
This types of guys are everywhere. The real issue is that they give the good guys a bad name at the same time. I feel for guys that are hopeless romantics or over nice to woman and things like that because woman start out distrusting them thanks to these idiots!
I think we all know a guy or two that are like this. These are extreme examples in my book, but I guess you never know.
Yeah, they are extreme, but if you met some of the “guys” that I know, you would be thinking otherwise LOL.
These are the types of guys that I had around me when growing up. It was odd to see such weird personalities in the “men”, but I didn’t know any better. Once I got away from my hometown to go to college, the difference was amazingly more positive.
LOL. This is a pretty good list. The main issue I have with it is that it describes most of the men that I meet!