Even in great relationships, there can be times where you wonder: Does my boyfriend really care about me? (Or husband. Or guy that you’re currently seeing.) Here are the specific signs to to know if he cares about you.
It can be difficult to figure out whether a guy really cares about you – sometimes you think he does, but other times, you’re not so sure. He says he does, but you’re not convinced about his actions. Or maybe he just never tells you and you’re feeling a bit insecure about it.
Actions and feelings in a relationship can be confusing, so if you’re having a hard time figuring him out, then perhaps you should be paying more attention. There are certain things he says or does that can tip you off on whether or not he genuinely cares. Here are 16 signs that demonstrate that he really does care about you and wants to be with you.
1. It’s Not “Her And I”, It’s “We”
This one is soooo cute. He says “we”. It means he thinks of you as an item, as a team. You’re together for the long haul and he isn’t shy about vocalizing it. He really cares and he is telling you and everyone else.
2. He’s Patient And Understanding
We all act a little bit irrational from time to time – especially when we’re hormonal – but he’s incredibly patient and understanding with you. He doesn’t get angry and he is not dismissive of your feelings. Instead, he takes the time to understand what is wrong and where you’re coming from.
3. He Listens To You
There is a difference between “hearing” and “listening”, and men often do the former, thinking they’re doing the latter. If he actually pays attention to what you’re saying, is genuinely interested, and offers solutions or advice, then you know he is listening and that he cares about you and what you’re going through. He wants things to be better for you and he wants to help.
4. He Cares About Your Pleasure
Think about it – how is he in bed? Not whether the sex is good or not, but does he make an effort to get you off? Does he enjoy giving you pleasure? Does he care about your pleasure? That’s a sign he really cares. If he’s actually a bit selfish and it’s all about him… you may be in trouble.
5. He Asks For Your Advice
Here’s something you need to know about guys – they don’t like to talk to other people about their problems and struggles. They’re very “handle my own stuff” kind of people. That makes it even more obvious that when he comes to you for advice or to vent, it’s because he trusts you and respects your opinion and judgement. He wouldn’t do that with just anyone.
6. He Makes Concessions For You
You won’t always like the same things or want to do the same activities. That can create conflicts, especially when stubborn people are involved. But he makes concessions for you. He may hate that movie you want to see next week, but he goes anyway, because he cares about you. And he shuts up around that friend of yours he hates. What a guy!
7. He Wants To Make Up
Some of your bad boyfriends may have played the role of the wounded, brooding male and ran away after fights. That is childish and terribly disrespectful to you. Needing to be alone is fine; running away for days and giving you the silent treatment with no signs of wanting to make things better is not.
But he isn’t like that. Instead, he actively takes steps towards reconciliation and tries to make things better and understand how to fix problems and avoid conflicts in the future. He’s a keeper.
8. He Remembers Little Things About You
This isn’t necessarily a super important thing and you could overlook it, but it is a subtle sign that he is undoubtedly in love with you. Does he remember that you used to be obsessed with The Muppets when you were a child, so he buys you a Kermit t-shirt? Does he know you’re cranky when you’re hungry, so he keeps a power bar in his backpack? He pays attention and cares enough to remember little things.
9. He’s Not Jealous And Possessive
Look, there’s a “cute” kind of jealous – when he kind of shit talks that one guy at work who flirts with you, or puts a protective arm around your waist when he thinks some guy at the bar is checking you out. But controlling behavior is never ok and it is absolutely not a sign of love. Don’t fall for the impression that possessiveness and insane jealousy is love. It’s abusive. Your guy does none of that, and that’s great!
10. He Tries To Make A Good Impression On Your Folks
He knows how important your friends and your family are to you, so he makes an effort to leave a good impression on them. He shows up for events, chats them up, tries to help and generally contribute in a meaningful way.
11. He’s Happy And Excited For You
You know how you are genuinely excited for your best friend because she is excited and has a great opportunity, or incredible fortune? He’s happy when you’re happy. Excited when you are. If it puts a smile on your face or things are going well for you, it makes him happy. Because he really cares about you.
12. He Is Interested In You And Pays Attention
You know how some people will just tune you out, or just ask how you are our of habit, or to be polite? He doesn’t do that. Instead, he is genuinely interested and he listens to what you are saying. He pays attention, he asks questions and he wants to know more about your day, about what you’re feeling, etc.
13. He Doesn’t Lie To You
People will often lie in a mistaken attempt to spare one’s feelings, but your guy knows that is not ok. He respects you too much to lie to you, and while the truth may hurt, he always wants you to be aware of it. He understands that a successful relationship can only be built on the truth and he wants you guys to have a real chance.
14. He Tries To Help When You’re Upset
From time to time, we all have little break-downs. We’re upset, we’re scared, and we just need someone. And he is that someone for you. Whenever you’re upset or down, he is there for you and will leave everything else to be by your side and support you.
15. He Wants You To Meet His Friends And Family
If he cares about you and you’re special to him, he’ll want you to meet his friends and family. Guys love showing off their girl to their friends; it means he thinks you’re amazing and he wants everyone to know!
16. He Fights For You
Surely you’ve had some ups and downs – when things are bad, does he show you that he is willing to fight? Is he passionate about you being together? Is he willing to do what it takes? A man who cares about you is a man who will fight for you and won’t let you go without doing whatever he can to keep you.
These are just 16 of the hidden signs he doesn’t even know he is displaying, but that prove without a doubt that he cares about you a lot. Look out for them in your guy to reassure yourself of his feelings.
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Signs he cares about you
- It’s Not “Her And I”, It’s “We”
- He’s Patient And Understanding
- He Listens To You
- He Cares About Your Pleasure
- He Asks For Your Advice
- He Makes Concessions For You
- He Wants To Make Up
- He Remembers Little Things About You
- He’s Not Jealous And Possessive
- He Tries To Make A Good Impression On Your Folks
- He’s Happy And Excited For You
- He Is Interested In You And Pays Attention
- He Doesn’t Lie To You
- He Tries To Help When You’re Upset
- He Wants You To Meet His Friends And Family
- He Fights For You