Being seductive is a very popular topic because there are so many misconceptions floating around about what it means, how to do it and what tricks and tips work best to drive a man wild and make him come back, begging for more.
There is so much misinformation out there that I have to write this to clear up all the nonsense and only give you what I feel is the best, accurate information about how to truly be seductive.
Is it giving the best BJ on the planet? I mean… this is not a bad thing but this is not the “recipe to be seductive.”
It would be the intention behind why you did it; intention and vibe, an internal state of being, are huge in determining whether you are seductive or not.
First, I will explain the key mindsets that you need to know or none of the tricks will ever work. Then, I want to cover some fun tips and tricks that will help you out.
Knowing the mindsets is actually the key to being seductive: knowing the right mindsets you need to have and then combining that with certain tricks and things you can do is the winning combination that makes you truly seductive and irresistible to men.
This is where most women go wrong; they might read about random tricks (some of which are too outrageous to actually be effective but others are closer to being effective…) but do not know the right mindset to go along with it.
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So let’s begin!
1. Be calm and comfortable
Being comfortable in everything you do is key. If you aren’t comfortable, you aren’t going to be seductive.
You won’t feel good inside if you’re uncomfortable. Not feeling good inside means your vibe will come across to the guy you’re with. If it comes across as if you’re sitting there trying to pretend to be having fun and to be comfortable but are actually anxious and freaking out about every single move you make you will end up coming off as very “neutral.”
What do I mean by neutral? Neutral basically means he won’t be attracted to you or unattracted to you; he will just kind of “be”. He won’t notice you or he extremely turned on by you, he will probably see you as a friend or a nice woman to just hang out with.
It isn’t about what you look like; I am talking about something that has nothing to do with what you look like. If you’re a perfect 10 model, you can still have a vibe that is not seductive. Being seductive is largely based on your vibe.
The vibe you give off makes a man feel innately attracted to you and want to be around you. He will feel completely drawn to you. Most men are not comfortable with themselves. In fact, some of the most incredibly attractive women are the most insecure.
Everyone has something they’re insecure about. No one feels perfectly confident all of the time. But what you need to do in order to be seductive is to be as confident in yourself as you can. What you should do is focus on being the best you that you can be.
Rather than focus on what you don’t like about yourself, focus on your best assets and what you feel good about. And if there are things you don’t like about yourself, do what you can to change these things.
Make realistic, simple goals that you want to achieve. Don’t try to do everything at once because it’ll overwhelm you. But take small steps and you will feel happy and inspired when you notice yourself changing.
Whether it’s a physical goal or a life goal, taking small steps to get what you want is crucial in developing self-confidence.
And stop comparing yourself to other people. Comparisons only make you unhappy and do nothing productive for you; who cares what other women do? Who cares what they look like and how they act?
You shouldn’t because, again, the purpose is to be the best YOU that you can be!!!
2. Be “Innocent”
No I am not talking about being a virgin waiting for your Prince Charming. What I am talking about is don’t become someone you’re not or feel you have to dress insanely provocatively because you think it’s going to make him want you.
Do not try to become someone you are not means do not become some version of yourself that makes you feel you have sold yourself out in order to be “seductive.”
For example, if a woman decides being “seductive” means going to a bar and sleeping with two men a week… and she does this because she thinks it’s going to somehow make her more seductive even though she does not want to even do this… this is almost hurting your “innocent” true self, which is something men are attracted to.
If the woman wanted to sleep with these men, this is different; this woman is not killing her “innocence.” What I mean by innocence is being true to who you are, maintaining a sense of self and not losing that in some idea of what it means to be seductive.
3. Do Not Be An Attention Seeker
Don’t go out of your way to try and seek attention. Yes, it is natural to want attention and it can be hurtful when you try to get attention and nothing you do ends up working. There is a reason for this.
Trying to get attention actually comes off as desperate rather than seductive. The art of not caring is key when it comes to your need for attention. Needing attention for validation is the surefire way to not be seductive.
Living your life the way you want and being who you want to be, without caring about what anyone else thinks, is seductive. Be happy in your own skin, find your own sense of self without needing attention and validation from others.
Do not act a certain way to draw attention to yourself, it comes off as insanely obvious and is actually a huge turn off to most men.
Now that we have covered some mindsets, let’s get onto some fun stuff.
Fun, General Specifics:
- Wear his clothes (perhaps just an oversized button up shirt that fits loosely) and walk around in it
- Try on random clothes in front of him and act as if he is not even there, looking at yourself in the mirror exactly how you normally would if it was you alone (so he can see your naked body)
- When you’re genuinely turned on, don’t be afraid to let him know
- Smile a lot (genuinely) because men are attracted to happy women
- Don’t dress too “revealing,” leaving something to the imagination and letting him wonder what you look like naked is more seductive
If you’re in a relationship and the sex is becoming routine, less passionate and frequent, you can mix things up and add some “variety” to the bedroom.
You can try new positions, try things both of you have always wanted to do but never got around to doing, etc.
You can wear a sexy new outfit to bed, ask him what his wildest turn on is. You can give him a crazy experience if you completely let your guard down and are willing to try something brand new and exciting.
Talk about your secret fantasies & let tension build
Even if you do not actually ever go through with them, there is something hot about actually discussing these things out loud.
As you talk, feel your body and how it reacts. Look at him, knowing that you are turned on (if you are) and just feel that energy in the room.
You can feel a certain kind of tension when having a conversation with someone and you both are intensely turned on yet neither one of you has said something… yet. Let this tension build to a point where you cannot handle it anymore.
Tease, Tease & Tease (But Don’t just Tease)
Teasing a man can sometimes be an extremely seductive thing for a woman to do. For example, if you are watching tv together, you can lay your head down near his “package,” but not make anything of it.
Or you can put your hand on his stomach, but almost in a way that’s inching downward. Or you can be touchy feely and yet not actually have sex or do anything sexual.
Simply feeling your bodies touch for even a few seconds can build up this “tease” where he starts wanting you more. When you tease a man, though, it’s not the best idea to do it if your intention is just to provoke him sexually and then say no, sorry.
Obviously if you are not feeling it in the moment and don’t end up hooking up that is one thing and totally makes sense. But purposefully being a tease and giving a man “blue balls” intentionally isn’t the best thing to do.
Cuddle With Him In A Certain Way
Cuddling with a man is a great way to seduce him. Why? It’s an innocent activity that presses your bodies against each other, which will definitely make him insanely turned on (most likely).
If you do this, you can even kind of graze your leg over his, where he can feel your body and start going crazy wondering what it would feel like… if … you get where I am going with this one. But it is honestly a very good way to seduce a man.
Never Be Too Forward Because You Think It Will Seduce Him
Never, and I repeat: never throw yourself at a guy thinking it’s going to seduce him if this is your intention behind throwing yourself at him.
If you are so turned on your body and mind cannot control themselves any longer and you can’t help make a move on him, but it feels natural and good and insanely pleasurable… this is one thing and this is seductive, but if you literally try to seduce him by being forward and throwing yourself at him when deep down you don’t even feel like doing it… but rather, it’s a ploy or a plot to make him feel seduced by you… and you do it because you feel this is what you are “supposed to do,” this will come off incredibly awkward, possibly even desperate and simply not seductive. Do not do anything that does not feel natural.
Be Able to Laugh/Be Playful
Being playful is an excellent demeanor to have when it comes to seducing men. First, laughing in a cute way and just being playful and lighthearted makes men feel happy and also shows that the woman is able to “let go” and enjoy life.
If she can let go and enjoy life, what else can she enjoy? This is the subconscious association a man will have if you are able to be carefree, laugh and just have fun with life. If you can do this and put a smile on his face, he will start to fantasize about what else you could do and how much bigger a smile you could put on his face if… you know… And when you are playful, you can also casually make jokes that reference sex in some way, which adds an element of flirtation to your conversations.
And finally, the physical parts.
Tips On The Physical Aspects Of Seduction
Everyone is different and is attracted to different things but there are some universals you should know so that you can be your most seductive self.
How you smell is obviously important. For example, you obviously are aware that excellent dental hygiene is a must. What I am talking about when I say scent is… perfume.
How much perfume should you wear, if any? I can tell you most women are wrong about this one. Most women feel putting on too much perfume (in too strong of scents) is seductive. It is, in fact, the opposite.
Do not put on too much perfume and stay away from heavier perfumes. Your body naturally produces a scent that men are wired to be attracted to.
Makeup is a personal choice. A good rule of thumb is to find a routine that works for you, makes you feel sexy and does not smear a man’s pillow cases (this is a hard balance to strike, I know).
But if you are not going to be sleeping on his pillowcases anytime soon, go for it. Wear the seductive cat eye, the smoldering eyeliner and whatever else it is women like to wear.
Put in effort, makeup can really transform how a woman looks and you might as well use what you have!
Obviously this is a controversial one. But the main point is: be the healthiest version of yourself. Eat as healthy as you can and make the best of your body, don’t try to fit some standard of thin that you feel is the only attractive way to be; this is not true at all.
Men are attracted to healthy women who look like they are in good shape not like they are skeletons.
So there you go… here are some tips on how to be seductive. Let me know what you think.
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How To Be Seductive And Seduce Him
- Be calm and comfortable
- Be “innocent”
- Don’t be an attention seeker
- Talk to him about your fantasies
- Tease, tease, & tease (but don’t just tease)
- Be playful with him