He ghosted me. Vanished. Radio silence.
Unfortunately, this is a very common thing going on in the dating world today. With so much digital access, it’s easy to ignore a text or call, swipe on to the next match, etc. And of course you’re sitting there confused, wondering how to respond to ghosting, especially if it happens over and over again.
All hope is not lost though. I’m going to reveal the 3 reasons guys ghost and the one text you can use to work in your favor and fix things. The next time you find yourself lost, you’ll know what to text after being ghosted so make sure you pay close attention.
When you don’t know these reasons and the text to send, you end up making a mistake and pushing him away once and for all when there’s a chance you could get him back.
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Ghosting someone sucks. However, there’s a lot more than you realize going on here and this solution to how to text a ghoster is actually more important than you think.
When someone ghosts you, it can be the most confusing thing in the world. Especially if everything seemed to be going great so far. Then, poof. He’s gone.
There’s a couple of perfectly normal reasons why this might happen though…
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#1: He’s Just Busy
He could simply be dealing with something personal or tackling a really difficult situation at work that he doesn’t want to talk about. You have no real way of knowing and pushing the situation is going to have the opposite effect you are looking for.
A guy will “ghost” if he’s trying to get space and needs to pull back in order to deal with whatever personal issues he’s working through whether it’s stress, a family situation, etc.
The good news here is that if he’s ghosting because he’s busy, that means he still likes you and all hope is not lost. Believe it or not but this is actually a very common situation.
He’s going to pull away in order to keep his issues out of the relationship and not bring that negativity into it because he likes you and wants to keep it that way. So, don’t panic and make a snap decision to start demanding answers or explanations. Give him his space and relax while you find something else to focus on in the meantime.
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#2: He’s Not Interested And Doesn’t Want To Break It To You
Unfortunately, this one does not have a happy outcome like the last reason he might ghost someone.
You’re probably wondering, “Why did he ghost me? Why can’t he just come out and say he doesn’t like me?”
The simple answer is that men don’t like disappointing women. They don’t like doing or saying things they know will upset you and let you down. In fact, and it might not feel right, they just would rather avoid it altogether.
However, don’t jump to this conclusion immediately. He could simply also fall into the category of #1 or #3 which I will cover in just a moment. So, don’t immediately assume that all of a sudden he doesn’t like you.
If it is this reason, you really can’t stop the ghosting. You can’t force someone to have feelings for you. In this situation, it’s best to just let it go and not give it any more of your time or energy. Leave yourself open for someone better to come along.
Do not waste your time overanalyzing “Why did he ghost me? I don’t know what to do when someone ghosts me.”
Leave it be and move on.
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#3: He’s Having Some Kind Of An Emotional Block
What on earth does that mean?!
It basically means that he’s interested in you still but is having some kind of a hiccup or emotional issue blocking him from jumping in and fully committing.
This could be anything from getting back together if you’re his ex, you guys are long distance, or he’s married and fell out of love with his wife.
As you can see, these emotional blocks could come from a lot of different situations. I don’t like to say “it’s complicated” but these scenarios definitely fit that description. The issue is a lack of clarity.
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I’m going to give you the text message that will give you that clarity your situation is lacking so that you can bring it into a clear black and white focus and get your answer of “is he into me or not?”
“Is he ghosting me? Should I text a guy who ghosted me? Is there something wrong with me? What did I do wrong?”
Instead of driving yourself crazy with these questions, all you need is a simple text to get your answer. This text will work but only if he’s actually into you.
Text: “I guess our run is over judging by your lack of a reply. It was fun while it lasted. I’ll remember the [insert memory together whether it’s a song or movie or inside joke, etc.]. We can be friends though!”
You can add in an emoji at the end if you really want to keep it lighthearted and not have the text come off as angry or passive aggressive.
The purpose of this text is that it’s going to jolt him out of his current slumber and ghosting status so that he jumps to reply in reason #1 or #3 as we discussed before.
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If he’s truly interested, he doesn’t want to lose that romantic connection to you so he will jump into action to keep the relationship from sliding into platonic friend territory. If he doesn’t want to lose you, he will step up and take action.
He will either reply or he’ll continue to ghost you (scenario #2) but either way you will have your answer. You’ll know whether he was ever truly interested or if it was a casual relationship that ultimately wouldn’t have given you the commitment you want.
Now you get to either continue the relationship and see where it leads or you can move on and leave yourself open for someone to come along who will not ghost you. If he has any interest, this text will bring him back to you.
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Hi, I used this text on a guy I hadn’t heard back from in 5 days but it backfired, in a week we had planned on catching up for lunch. After saying, we should be friends though. He said … Let’s be friends if that ok’, but I’ll see you around though. I did t know where to go from there so I said all good and see you around. Can you give some advice as to what I should have said instead. After he responded. Now we aren’t even in contact:(
Hi how can i book a call?
He ghosted but I can’t text him cause he blocked me, ghosted me in August I been NC he called in September I missed the called I called right back he had blocked me