The Top 10 Signs A Guy Isn’t Interested In You Anymore

The Top 10 Signs A Guy Isn’t Interested In You Anymore

You’re here because you want to know how to tell when a guy is no longer interested in you.

Maybe you’ve been flirting with a guy for a while and know that he likes you, but all of a sudden he’s giving you the cold shoulder and it doesn’t feel like he’s interested anymore.

Maybe you’ve been casually seeing him but it feels like he might be avoiding you and you’re not sure whether he’s still interested.

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Maybe you know for a fact that he was into you, but now he’s acting distant and you’re wondering what changed and whether he still even likes you anymore.

It can be an awful feeling to think that someone you thought was interested in you is no longer interested.

What happened? Why did they lose interest in you? Did you do something wrong? Are they done with you completely?

I know how awful that can feel, which is why I’m here to help you.

This article will give you the biggest signs a guy has lost interest in you, so that you know exactly what his feelings are for you and can figure out what to do next.

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The Biggest Signs A Guy Isn’t Interested In You Anymore

1. He Stops Texting And Calling You

This is the big one – the numerouno biggest sign that a guy isn’t interested in you anymore.

If he’s interested in you, he’s going to want to talk to you. He’s going to take any excuse he can find to call you, or text you, or otherwise have a conversation with you.

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Why? Because when a guy likes you it feels good to him to talk to you. He craves it, and wants to do it more.

Obviously, if he’s in the middle of a huge stressful thing, like finals, or a massive project at work, or something going wrong in his family, then it makes sense why he might go incommunicado for a while and stop texting.

But if he’s not going through anything big that you know of and he’s pretty much stopped calling or texting you, that’s a big sign he’s no longer interested.

2. He Stops Trying To Hang Out One On One With You

If a guy likes you, he’s going to want to spend time alone with you.

Come on. That’s a pretty obvious sign.

Spending time alone is a great way to get to know each other better and increase the intimacy between you.

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So if he completely stops trying to hang out with you one on one, that’s a bad sign. It means he no longer feels a drive to spend time alone with you, which is a huge indicator that he’s no longer interested.

3. He Doesn’t Flirt With You Anymore

If a guy is flirting with you, it’s a pretty good bet he’s interested.

Obviously, it’s not a 100% sure thing – some guys just flirt with everyone they meet, and it doesn’t mean anything special.

But if you know that he doesn’t necessarily flirt with just anyone, and he used to flirt with you but now he’s stopped, that’s a bad sign for your future together.

4. He Flakes On You Way More Often

When a guy likes you, he deeply cares what you think of him. Especially if you’re not officially dating or if you haven’t “gotten together” yet.

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He’s going to go out of his way to avoid doing anything that he knows might upset you or make you disinterested in seeing him.

And everybody knows how annoying it is to get flaked on.

A guy who likes you is going to try really hard not to flake on you, and if he does, he’s going to have a really good reason for it.

But if he’s started flaking on you way more often, without having a really good reason to break the plans, it’s a sign that he’s not interested in pursuing you anymore.

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5. He Flirts With Other Women In Front Of You

Most guys, if they’re interested in a woman, will go out of their way not to flirt with any other women in front of her.

They don’t want to risk pissing her off and making her uninterested in dating them, so they avoid making it look like they’re interested in anyone else.

If he’s openly flirting with other women in front of you, or worse, asking your advice and talking to you about other women he likes, it’s a really bad sign for whether he’s still interested in you.

It’s important to note that some guys will actually flirt with other women in front of the woman they’re interested in in order to try to make her jealous.

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That’s why this sign isn’t 100% foolproof – because he could be just trying to make you jealous (but in my experience, most guys don’t try something like that).

So take this sign in conjunction with other signs to figure out the truth.

6. His Body Language Changes Around You

When a guy likes you, he might not say so directly, but his body language will.

He’ll lean towards you to build intimacy, face his body towards you in group situations, and find reasons to touch your shoulder or arm (like when he makes you laugh).

It’s easy to miss these cues but you’ll definitely notice them subconsciously – they’re a big part of the reason why you think he likes you in the first place.

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However, you’ll definitely notice if his body language was telling you one thing before, and has changed since then.

If his body language has changed in a big way towards you, and he’s no longer sitting close to you, or touching you, or looking like he feels comfortable when he’s close to you – it’s a big sign that his feelings for you have changed as well.

7. He Doesn’t Pay Attention Like He Used To

Guys who like you are going to generally be present when they’re with you.

After all, if he likes you then you’re important to him, and he’s going to really listen when you talk to him, and remember when you tell him things.

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Every guy is different, and some guys are more forgetful than others – so it’s possible that it doesn’t mean he’s no longer interested if he’s not really paying attention.

That’s why it’s important to compare how he’s acting now to how he used to act.

If he used to be super attentive to you and now doesn’t really pay attention at all, it’s a huge sign that he doesn’t like you in the way that he used to.

8. Your Instincts Are Telling You He’s Not Interested

Let’s be honest – your gut is going to give you the best answer to this question.

After all, your gut knows all the facts and everything about the situation. It’s much more well informed than anything you’d read online, because it’s YOU making the call.

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So if your gut is telling you that his feelings towards you have changed, it’s probably right.

The best way to tell what your instincts are telling you is to clear your mind, relax, and ask yourself whether you think he’s lost interest.

Before you think about the answer in your mind, your gut will answer for you – either dropping in dread or lifting up in hope.

Be honest with yourself, and listen to your gut. It’s usually right.

9. You Always Have To Text And Call Him First

If he’s always initiating the texting and calling with you, it’s a huge sign he’s interested.

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And if you’re always the one who has to text and call him first, it’s a big sign that he’s not.

The best way to figure out whether he’s interested or not is to compare his behavior now to how he was before.

Did he initiate texts and calls with you a lot before and then gradually stop over time?

If that’s the case – it’s a big sign that he’s not really interested in you anymore.

10. He Doesn’t Get Jealous If You Mention Seeing Someone Else

First off, it’s important to note that trying to make him jealous isn’t a good plan if you want him to be interested in you. He’ll feel like you’re trying to manipulate him, and it’ll turn him off.

That being said, if he doesn’t get jealous at all if you go on a date with a different guy, or flirt with someone else, it’s a big sign he’s not interested.

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If he’s not invested at all and doesn’t care that he might lose you to someone else, that says a lot about whether he wants to be with you or not.

Some guys don’t really get jealous – but almost every guy will react if they think they’re going to lose a woman they’re interested in.

So if he doesn’t get jealous – not even a little bit – it’s a huge sign he’s not interested in you anymore.

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In summary…

These Are The Biggest Signs A Guy Isn’t Interested In You Anymore

  1. He stops texting and calling you.
  2. He stops trying to hang out one on one with you.
  3. He doesn’t flirt with you anymore.
  4. He flakes on you way more often.
  5. He flirts with other women in front of you.
  6. His body language changes around you.
  7. He doesn’t pay attention to you like he used to.
  8. Your instincts are telling you he’s no longer interested.
  9. You always have to text and call him first.
  10. He doesn’t get jealous if you mention seeing someone else.

top 10 signs a guy isnt interested in you anymore

47 comments… add one
  • Sharon April 1, 2023, 12:53 pm

    There’s this guy at first we were just casual friend we used to talk together but when he asked me our it felt so awkward and ever since that day I started avoiding him but when I finally accepted him,just to stop him from disturbing me. But as time went on I developed feelings for this guy but it seems he as lost interest he stopped calling and I think his avoiding me

  • Sheeba August 30, 2020, 12:26 pm

    What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you they love you and want to be with but they dnt think it is the right decision because they think I deserve better

  • Cantrell Wilson Barney August 20, 2020, 5:17 pm

    Well I’ve been dating this coworker for over year nice guy I might add. Didnt hang out with him that first 6 months cause i was scared too. Cause I got out of a bad relationship . Those 6 months he called me everyday always asked to hangout with me but I would never hangout with him and he would buy me dinner everyday. Well I finally decided to hangout with him for a month and half the phone calls slow down the conversations became shorter and he doesn’t ask me out I have to ask him. So now at thinking ok I’m not going to ask him to hang out with me nor I’m going to call or text

  • Shantel jovie June 26, 2019, 2:12 am

    thanks for your ideas ma dear pals,he asks you why you have called him and does’nt reply to your texts anymore.

  • Joy January 19, 2019, 2:18 am

    We dnt talk anymore like we used too. And I try to ask him what am I missing all he said is that he is having too much work to do. And we from different continents so we have time difference we with all this we used to try to keep things alive by sparring little time with each but now am just left there hanging. And he tells me that he want to marry me. Is this even going anywhere??? It really confusing me.

  • Tati September 22, 2018, 4:21 pm

    I’m dealing with this right now and it hurts that it happened sooner than I was ready for or at all, I guess. I met a guy from a mutual friend, he almost immediately asked to exchange numbers. He expressed so much interest in me for four solid weeks. He’d message me a lot, invite me to spend time with him nearly every day before he worked, invite me places, he had time for me every day and then bam one bad night (that I figure was the turning point) he stops inviting me over or out with him. I don’t message him first in fear of losing him if I pester him, yet he still messages me every day..asks what I’m doing after work or how my day is going. If he didn’t string me along it’d be so much easier. We share mutual friends so I still see him when I go out, but he’s no longer sitting next to me, touching me, instead he’s talking to other girls. I see him stop in his conversations to glance at me..probably just to see if I’m creeping on him lol. I just want to rekindle what was initially there, but that’s just wishful thinking.

  • Tania September 21, 2018, 7:37 am

    Sum reason he dint give me a hug like always he jus walked off when I asked for 1, and for me to talk to him I have to stop him Everytime I see him if he see Me he jus don’t pay attention he jus continue to walk

  • Ellie September 11, 2018, 9:24 pm

    Unless you’re in a relationship to validate someone’s feelings and make them feel safe and secure without the same being reciprocated, don’t do it. You’re not there for his convenience. Love is a two way street.

  • Anna June 19, 2018, 4:04 am

    Dated this guy for almost a year. Later found out he is married. We met again and things got back to square one. I can now tell that he loves his wife and he will never leave her because of obligations. I feel so depress.

  • Adelaide June 13, 2018, 12:46 pm

    So true! I connected over the phone with a guy from We talked for hours. Next day, untested him, he replied. I haven’t heard from him ever since. Sucks but, life goes on I guess.

    • mariam October 10, 2021, 4:24 pm

      i wonder why they always do this honestly , they just lead you on only to ghost you in the next day

  • jess May 31, 2018, 12:28 pm

    I’m having this issue. I met this guy it was going great. He only asked me to hangout once. He kissed me then suddenly I barely get a text back. I think it turned him off knowing we make the same amount of money. I’m not stupid. I can tell hes just not that into me anymore. I just wish I knew why. I hate liking a guy who leaves me questioning everything. I wish he’d be more blunt & tell me that he’s just not that into me.

  • jobelline May 10, 2018, 12:06 pm

    I don’t know, He stopped holding my hands, being clingy to me but somehow he wants me to caress his hair always, he’s so complicated. What to do

  • Fidelity Moyo April 29, 2018, 2:36 am

    I wish i could wake up from this hell of a nightmare! Am so depressed

  • Eliz December 27, 2017, 3:36 pm

    I’m going through this situation, we have been dating for 9months he started ignoring me by november, now he stopped calling and texting me it was a quite festive season. I just wish to meet someone.

  • soma December 1, 2017, 8:05 am

    when i said him that i am getting jealous because some of the girls are getting too cosy with him. He said that he doesn’t gets jealous when someone gets too close to me so why i am getting jealous… What does that mean????? does he not love me anymore???

  • soma December 1, 2017, 8:00 am

    he doesn’t gets jealous anymore….

  • Kapeka November 15, 2017, 4:09 am

    So what does is mean if he’s watching videos of other women doing inappropriate dances to other people or to music just in general? Also if you have talked about it and he says he wouldn’t do it again but he does?

  • irina September 28, 2017, 5:39 pm

    if he flirts with others in your face, this only means he doesn’t care about your feelings anymore.

  • marina September 27, 2017, 2:11 pm

    pretty harsh, but these are for real. women should be aware of these signs.

  • josie September 7, 2017, 5:28 pm

    you would know if it feels like he doesn’t want to be alone with you anymore

  • rita September 6, 2017, 5:10 pm

    flirting is an important aspect in a relationship. if he doesn’t how sign of this any longer, he might have lost interest already.

  • allegra August 23, 2017, 6:44 pm

    trust your instincts and pay more attention to how he treats you and acts around you.

  • amy August 20, 2017, 7:52 pm

    you’d know he isn’t interested with you any longer when he doesn’t pay attention to you and he just doesn’t have time for you.

  • charlene August 16, 2017, 4:00 pm

    when he seems to be really dry and cold towards you suddenly, he might be sending you a message already. better read the signs before it’s too late.

  • wendy August 15, 2017, 7:05 am

    all these signs are really true and you should be aware of them before it’s too late.

  • blair August 7, 2017, 12:01 am

    if he’s changed in many ways like his body language and the way he talks to you, he may have lost interest in you

  • gladys August 2, 2017, 12:31 pm

    if he stops flirting and even the communication goes dry, he may have lost his interest.

  • eva July 30, 2017, 10:58 pm

    he won’t be paying attention as much as he did before.

  • mollie July 23, 2017, 11:55 pm

    when he’s suddenly cold on you, this might be a sign he’s no longer interested

  • jolie July 18, 2017, 10:57 pm

    if this your current situation, better think of ways to get his attention and interest back. don’t feel defeated, you can do better.

  • delaney July 17, 2017, 11:51 pm

    he’d start to seem very distant

  • sabrina July 16, 2017, 4:22 pm

    if he had so much time with you before and now he seems to be too busy and almost trying to avoid you…this means he’s no longer interested.

  • joni July 10, 2017, 7:16 pm

    a man flirting with another woman in your presence is a very clear sign he isn’t interested anymore

  • samantha July 9, 2017, 1:29 pm

    if you always have to contact him first especially if he used to do that before, he might not be interested anymore.

  • macy July 4, 2017, 4:46 pm

    if this is true to you and you don’t want to lose him, be the person he fell in love with in the beginning of the relationship and try to improve for the better.

  • carmen June 29, 2017, 1:24 pm

    if he has the guts to flirt with other women even when you’re around, maybe he’s trying to tell you he’s really not interested anymore he just can’t tell it straight to your face.

  • lauren June 28, 2017, 11:43 pm

    if he doesn’t even have interest in texting or calling you, that’s it.

  • melissa June 27, 2017, 10:22 am

    he’ll show you different kinds of things to say he is very busy

  • kayla June 25, 2017, 3:25 pm

    this is very sad but better to know now than after you fall to hard.

  • rori June 22, 2017, 2:24 pm

    he can be as mean and would even treat you like nothing :(

  • jamie June 20, 2017, 2:55 pm

    he becomes too busy, most of the time he pretends to be just to avoid you

  • wella June 19, 2017, 11:08 am

    if he’s deliberately avoiding you even your texts..

  • valerie June 15, 2017, 1:32 pm

    he doesn’t take time to answer your calls or texts

  • helen June 14, 2017, 4:22 pm

    this is confusing me in so many ways. he treats me differently each time.

    • Frisca June 18, 2017, 1:19 am

      I feel the same way..

  • lisa June 12, 2017, 11:03 pm

    he will not be as positive as before.

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