Out there in the dating world, it’s easy to run into the full spectrum of players, jerks, and flat out a-holes. Sometimes it can be difficult to know what kind of guys to avoid and what kind of guys you want to be with, spend your time on and invest your emotions in.
So to help you navigate the often disaster studded dating pool, here are 11 types of guys to avoid at all costs:
1. The Guy Who’s Insecure
This guy is often really nice, which makes this toxic character trait that much worse.
His insecurity is going to limit him in everything he does and everything in your relationship – he’s never going to trust that you really like him (because he doesn’t like himself), he’s not going to believe in the long term chances of your relationship (because he doesn’t believe in himself), and you’re going to have to walk on eggshells around him all the time.
Just say no to insecure guys.
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2. The Guy Who’s A Complete Narcissist
He’s obsessed with himself. He’s got confidence coming out the wazoo. He thinks he’s the greatest gift ever bestowed onto the human race, and he’s not shy of telling people about it.
Oh, and he’s impossible to be in a relationship with. He’s always looking out for number one, and if there’s ever a decision he has to make, you can bet he’s putting himself first. Why tie your life to someone who’s always going to put his needs before yours? Give this guy a pass.
3. The Guy Who’s Insanely Lazy
Well, he could spend Saturday working on his resume so he can get out of his dead end job… or he could play Call of Duty on the couch while drinking a beer. You can guess which option this guy chooses.
He’s not even willing to put in enough effort to put on clothes other than mesh shorts and a dirty tee shirt, so what makes you think he’s going to put in the effort to keep your relationship strong.
Guys like this only drag you down with them. Stay away.
4. The Guy Who’s A Player
This guy probably charmed the pants right off you when you first met (not literally but maybe literally).
He’s a smooth operator when it comes to women – suspiciously smooth in fact.
He’s always in flirt-mode wherever you go, and he always leaves you wondering whether you’re the only woman in his life or whether he’s just sticking with you until he finds a different woman to charm. He’s not going to change – and he’s not worth your time.
5. The Guy Who’s Sexist
This guy thinks “privilege” is a dirty word and that all feminist women are man haters who want to enslave men. Oh, and he stares at every woman’s ass as she walks down the street by him.
What a creep. Why even give this guy the right of way? His gender-selfishness extends into every aspect of his life, including probably the bedroom.
6. The Guy Who Can’t Get It Together
This guy is pathologically afraid of putting a plan down in stone and sticking to it. He’s always waiting to “see what happens” in the future. Trying to get a concrete plan out of him is like trying to get blood from a stone.
This guy is so unorganized he constantly lets deadlines slip and screws up the simplest long term plans. Why tie your life to someone like that?
7. The Guy Who’s ‘Too’ Attached To His Mom
Listen, I’ll be the first to say that a guy’s relationship with his mom is one of the more important factors to look at in a relationship, but… if he’s going to mommy for input on every single decision he makes in his life, it shows a lack of character on his part – and a danger sign for the future of a relationship he’s in.
He probably tells his mom everything, literally everything , and do you really want to sit at your in laws table wondering if his mom knows about that thing you wanted to try in the bedroom? Pass.
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8. The Guy Who’s Married
Are you serious?
ok , in case you’re really being serious and I actually have to address this – it’s a terrible idea to get involved with a guy who’s married. come on. he’s married to someone else. stop it. stahp .
Think about it this way: he committed himself to someone to be with her for the rest of their lives, and yet here he is… fooling around with you. If that’s how he treats commitment, why would you want him in your life?
9. The Guy Who Wants You To Mother Him
This guy looks for a woman to latch onto so that he can have her take care of him and all his needs – while he puts zero effort into the relationship.
He’s kind of like the lazy guy, in that he doesn’t want to put any effort into anything – but unlike the lazy guy, he wants you to put in all the effort for him. Do you want to wait on this guy hand and foot while he takes you more and more for granted? I didn’t think so.
10. The Guy Who Judges You
This is the guy who thinks that anyone who’s the slightest bit different than him is “crazy”, who treats alternative lifestyle choices as evidence of deviant character.
He judges anyone and anything that isn’t just like him, and that includes you. Don’t conform to his standard, male behavior (you know, because you’re a woman)? He’s going to judge the crap out of you for it.
This guy is toxic, and everything he touches turns to garbage. No sale.
11. The Guy Who’s Disrespectful
This is one that can pretty easily sneak up on you if you’re not paying attention. Sure, some of his jokes might have been close to the line, but he’s not totally disrespectful, is he?
Actually, yeah he is.
This guy is someone who has no problem putting you down in the most disrespectful way possible, and then hiding behind the excuse that he’s just being “honest.”
Watch how he treats the women in his life. If he’s crappy towards them, he’ll be crappy towards you, you’d better believe it.
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The Worst Types Of Men To Avoid Dating
- The guy who’s insecure
- The guy who’s a complete narcissist
- The guy who’s insanely lazy
- The guy who’s a player
- The guy who’s sexist
- The guy who can’t get it together
- The guy who’s ‘too’ attached to his mom
- The guy who’s married
- The guy who wants you to mother him
- The guy who judges you
- The guy who’s disrespectful