Avoid These 11 Types Of Men In The Dating Pool

Avoid These 11 Types Of Men In The Dating Pool

Out there in the dating world, it’s easy to run into the full spectrum of players, jerks, and flat out a-holes. Sometimes it can be difficult to know what kind of guys to avoid and what kind of guys you want to be with, spend your time on and invest your emotions in.

So to help you navigate the often disaster studded dating pool, here are 11 types of guys to avoid at all costs:

1. The Guy Who’s Insecure

This guy is often really nice, which makes this toxic character trait that much worse.

His insecurity is going to limit him in everything he does and everything in your relationship – he’s never going to trust that you really like him (because he doesn’t like himself), he’s not going to believe in the long term chances of your relationship (because he doesn’t believe in himself), and you’re going to have to walk on eggshells around him all the time.

Just say no to insecure guys.

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2. The Guy Who’s A Complete Narcissist

He’s obsessed with himself. He’s got confidence coming out the wazoo. He thinks he’s the greatest gift ever bestowed onto the human race, and he’s not shy of telling people about it.

Oh, and he’s impossible to be in a relationship with. He’s always looking out for number one, and if there’s ever a decision he has to make, you can bet he’s putting himself first. Why tie your life to someone who’s always going to put his needs before yours? Give this guy a pass.

3. The Guy Who’s Insanely Lazy

Well, he could spend Saturday working on his resume so he can get out of his dead end job… or he could play Call of Duty on the couch while drinking a beer. You can guess which option this guy chooses.

He’s not even willing to put in enough effort to put on clothes other than mesh shorts and a dirty tee shirt, so what makes you think he’s going to put in the effort to keep your relationship strong.

Guys like this only drag you down with them. Stay away.

4. The Guy Who’s A Player

This guy probably charmed the pants right off you when you first met (not literally but maybe literally).

He’s a smooth operator when it comes to women – suspiciously smooth in fact.

He’s always in flirt-mode wherever you go, and he always leaves you wondering whether you’re the only woman in his life or whether he’s just sticking with you until he finds a different woman to charm. He’s not going to change – and he’s not worth your time.

5. The Guy Who’s Sexist

This guy thinks “privilege” is a dirty word and that all feminist women are man haters who want to enslave men. Oh, and he stares at every woman’s ass as she walks down the street by him.

What a creep. Why even give this guy the right of way? His gender-selfishness extends into every aspect of his life, including probably the bedroom.

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6. The Guy Who Can’t Get It Together

This guy is pathologically afraid of putting a plan down in stone and sticking to it. He’s always waiting to “see what happens” in the future. Trying to get a concrete plan out of him is like trying to get blood from a stone.

This guy is so unorganized he constantly lets deadlines slip and screws up the simplest long term plans. Why tie your life to someone like that?

7. The Guy Who’s ‘Too’ Attached To His Mom

Listen, I’ll be the first to say that a guy’s relationship with his mom is one of the more important factors to look at in a relationship, but… if he’s going to mommy for input on every single decision he makes in his life, it shows a lack of character on his part – and a danger sign for the future of a relationship he’s in.

He probably tells his mom everything, literally everything , and do you really want to sit at your in laws table wondering if his mom knows about that thing you wanted to try in the bedroom? Pass.

See Also: 20 signs it’s time to move on and let go

8. The Guy Who’s Married

Are you serious?

ok , in case you’re really being serious and I actually have to address this – it’s a terrible idea to get involved with a guy who’s married. come on. he’s married to someone else. stop it. stahp .

Think about it this way: he committed himself to someone to be with her for the rest of their lives, and yet here he is… fooling around with you. If that’s how he treats commitment, why would you want him in your life?

9. The Guy Who Wants You To Mother Him

This guy looks for a woman to latch onto so that he can have her take care of him and all his needs – while he puts zero effort into the relationship.

He’s kind of like the lazy guy, in that he doesn’t want to put any effort into anything – but unlike the lazy guy, he wants you to put in all the effort for him. Do you want to wait on this guy hand and foot while he takes you more and more for granted? I didn’t think so.

10. The Guy Who Judges You

This is the guy who thinks that anyone who’s the slightest bit different than him is “crazy”, who treats alternative lifestyle choices as evidence of deviant character.

He judges anyone and anything that isn’t just like him, and that includes you. Don’t conform to his standard, male behavior (you know, because you’re a woman)? He’s going to judge the crap out of you for it.

This guy is toxic, and everything he touches turns to garbage. No sale.

11. The Guy Who’s Disrespectful

This is one that can pretty easily sneak up on you if you’re not paying attention. Sure, some of his jokes might have been close to the line, but he’s not totally disrespectful, is he?

Actually, yeah he is.
This guy is someone who has no problem putting you down in the most disrespectful way possible, and then hiding behind the excuse that he’s just being “honest.”

Watch how he treats the women in his life. If he’s crappy towards them, he’ll be crappy towards you, you’d better believe it.


If you loved this article, then check out these other must-see related posts:

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In summary…

The Worst Types Of Men To Avoid Dating

  1. The guy who’s insecure
  2. The guy who’s a complete narcissist
  3. The guy who’s insanely lazy
  4. The guy who’s a player
  5. The guy who’s sexist
  6. The guy who can’t get it together
  7. The guy who’s ‘too’ attached to his mom
  8. The guy who’s married
  9. The guy who wants you to mother him
  10. The guy who judges you
  11. The guy who’s disrespectful

worst types of men to avoid dating

28 comments… add one
  • Liz June 24, 2021, 2:53 pm

    My husband is guilty of three. No wonder my marriage has been difficult.

  • jawn November 19, 2017, 4:54 pm

    Nearly every man listed for women to avoid,women chose them….Women dont seem to want good men in America….

  • Rachal Dan   August 6, 2015, 9:44 pm

    I am afraid that I might be a part of the group that was not aware of this list before meeting my current b/f. I feel we are not compatible, but he insists that we are and I get the feeling that he is just in this whole thing for my body! That sucks.

  • Arlean   August 6, 2015, 9:33 pm

    What about the player that is married and still lives with his mom? Any red flags there? LOL

  • Camille Dy   August 5, 2015, 12:08 pm

    LOL. Most of these types of guys you will find just about anywhere and they stand out like a sore thumb in my opinion. I was at a wedding recently and I bet I could count the fact that I saw HALF of this list there ;)

  • Doretta Puff   August 3, 2015, 1:15 pm

    Post is in the high school for the girls? LOL, no way. Post this list up for the guys so they know what NOT to be when they grow up.

  • Sandee Tyner   August 1, 2015, 12:39 pm

    I would say that if you see these types of men out and about, you should consider looking another place.

  • Carylon Marrufo   August 1, 2015, 12:27 pm

    oh man, the man that wants you to “mother him”! That is so fricken creepy. That would have me running for the hills instantly!

    • Annemarie   August 5, 2015, 12:18 pm

      Bad news written ALL over that one :)

  • Nanette Fowler   July 31, 2015, 12:28 pm

    Without any question. It would be quite easy to avoid ANYONE that acted like these jackwads.

    • Lesli   August 3, 2015, 10:22 am

      LOL. Yes, I agree with you. Very easy to avoid someone acting like ANY of these.

  • Lily Lambert July 30, 2015, 1:28 pm

    This is a list I should have sought out back when I was younger. It would have saved me some time when my heart was getting in the way of my head making the right call with guys.

  • Lauren Mills July 29, 2015, 2:26 pm

    I am desperate for any man. I would try some of these to see how bad they really are. What do you think?

    • Raisa Gwozdz   July 31, 2015, 12:36 pm

      I have no issue with you trying first. If things do not seem to be changing, it is pretty easy to end it before it gets too far.

  • Dorothy Smith July 28, 2015, 11:30 am

    LOL, I guess I would stay away from the married man. That has always been my thought. If they are taken in any way, there is a level of attractiveness that goes away with it.

    • Maxine Carpenter July 30, 2015, 1:39 pm

      I am the same way. A married person is just as unattractive to me regardless. I just do not even have them on my “list” and it works out better for everyone.

  • Melanie Roberts July 28, 2015, 11:18 am

    Too attached to his mom! LOL. We have all been there right? The problem comes into play when he is still a decent guy that really cares for you, but the whole mom relationship gets in the way.

  • Tracey Wallace July 25, 2015, 6:17 pm

    Oh I hate these types of men. Too bad they take up about 98 percent of the men that I run into on a daily basis LOL.

  • Dorothy Stewart July 25, 2015, 5:55 pm

    Take a look at this list. Now look at it again, do you know anyone that fits here? It is time to move away from them if you do. Your time is not worth it!

  • Lauren McGrath July 25, 2015, 5:44 pm

    We have all seen these types! They are pretty easy to spot, but there are some that have great abilities to fool a girl.

  • Audrey James July 23, 2015, 9:22 am

    I am going to share this with a friend of mine that seems to have the worse luck of all time with men. Maybe this will help her weed them out.

  • Deirdre Ogden July 23, 2015, 9:09 am

    I dated a player one time. It seemed fun at first, but once you realize what the player’s main goal is you really have to step back and see what you are doing to yourself. Not worth it!

  • Ava Short July 22, 2015, 9:55 am

    A disrespectful guy is not one for me. I always give the benefit of the doubt, but when it becomes obvious, he’s gone.

  • Abigail Forsyth July 22, 2015, 9:21 am

    I would say a lazy guy is a good one to stay away from, unless you are just as lazy of course :)

    • Carolyn Black July 29, 2015, 2:13 pm

      Lazy men belong alone. If you think about it, what are they going to contribute to ANY relationship?

  • Molly Kelly July 21, 2015, 9:07 am

    This is a list that should be posted at every single high school in the nation :) Also some colleges.

  • Bernadette Greene July 21, 2015, 8:52 am

    This is a good list! I appreciate that I could learn from this very easily with some of the guys that I run into!

    • Audrey Blake July 25, 2015, 6:06 pm

      You are right. These lists are very helpful. I hope I never have to meet men like this.

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