The 9 Biggest Signs He Doesn't Want To Be With You Anymore (And Might Not Love You)

The 9 Biggest Signs He Doesn’t Want To Be With You Anymore (And Might Not Love You)

You’re here because you want to know the signs that a guy doesn’t want to be with you anymore – and even might not love you anymore.

Maybe you’ve been with him for a while and things just feel off lately. It doesn’t feel like he’s putting in as much energy, attention, and focus.

Maybe it feels awful when you’re together – like you can’t stop fighting and half the time you don’t even know what you’re fighting about.

Maybe he’s just gotten really distant and cold recently and it feels like he might be pulling away for good.

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Whatever the reason – things are going badly with him and you’re worried that this might be the end.

It could feel like he doesn’t even want to be there anymore – like he’s fallen out of love with you.

I know how awful that feels, and I’m here to help.

These are the biggest signs that a guy could have fallen out of love with you, and doesn’t want to be with you anymore.

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One Quick Note Before We Start

Lots of these signs mean that he’s putting in less effort or even stopped putting in effort altogether.

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Maybe that means he doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or maybe it doesn’t. It could just be that he’s gotten lazy and is taking the relationship for granted.

At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide what you’re going to tolerate from him. If you’re not getting what you need from him, and he’s not putting in the effort that you want, you have the power to leave him.

Sometimes if he realizes that you’re not going to put up with bad behavior, a guy will shape up and realize that he needs to put in effort if he wants to keep you.

All I’m saying is that a relationship is a two way street. I’m not telling you to do anything one way or the other – only you know the specifics of your situation.

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But if he’s not providing what you need, you always have the power to find a better situation for yourself.

And now, without further intro:

The Biggest Signs He Doesn’t Want To Be With You Anymore (And Might Not Love You Anymore)

1. It Seems Like Everything You Do Annoys Him

The foundation of any great relationship is that it feels great to be with each other.

That’s how great relationships are built. Two people realize that they can be genuine and open with each other – and that they like who the other person genuinely truly is.

That’s why it’s a disconcerting sign when he starts getting annoyed at everything you do – even the little stuff.

Obviously, if he’s going through something really stressful, like losing his job or problems with his family, he might be a little short tempered.

But if he’s not going through anything specific and he doesn’t seem to snap out of it and keeps getting annoyed at you – that’s a big sign that he might be having second thoughts about your relationship.

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2. He’s Closed Himself Off From You And Stopped Sharing

You have to compare his current behavior to his past behavior for this sign.

If he used to be really open with you – talking about his feelings, or how his day went, or really anything that was on his mind – and now he’s become more closed off and aloof, it’s a bad sign.

If he was never really that open with you in the first place, then nothing really changed – and it’s not a sign that he doesn’t want to be with you anymore.

Also, this is another one that could be because of some external circumstance – if he’s having a problem he doesn’t think he can talk about he might close off rather than mention it.

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But if he used to be open with you and now he’s stubborn and closed off, and he stays that way for a long time, it could mean that he doesn’t want to share himself with you anymore, which is a very bad sign for the future of the relationship.

3. He’s Totally Stopped Texting You Back

If he’s super passive aggressive or he doesn’t like confrontation, this could be his way of telling you that he doesn’t want a serious relationship with you.

At the same time, it’s important to note that texting naturally falls off the longer you’re with someone.

At the beginning, you might have texted back and forth all the time. But as time goes on and the relationship deepens, most guys will scale back the amount of texting.

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So if you’re just texting less, that’s not necessarily a sign he’s not interested anymore.

But if he’s routinely ignoring your texts for more than a few days and just flat out not communicating with you, it could be because he doesn’t want to be with you anymore.

4. All Of A Sudden He Needs Lots Of “Space” In The Relationship

Guys need space for lots of reasons. It’s completely, 100% normal for a guy to occasionally pull back and take some space in a relationship.

The best thing you can do when a guy needs space is let him take some space – normally he’ll return refreshed and ready to be with you.

Where it stops being normal is when he’s become so distant for so long that it has you wondering whether he even wants to be in the relationship at all.

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I’m not talking about days, or even weeks here. If you were in a committed relationship and he’s pulled away and hasn’t come back for a significant period of time – it could be that he doesn’t really want to be there anymore.

There’s no use guessing – only he knows for sure. If he’s been withdrawn for way longer than a couple weeks, you’re well within your rights to ask him what’s going on in his head and whether he still wants to be with you.

5. He Doesn’t Help You When You’re Hurting

Relationships are all about supporting each other when needed.

Lots of the appeal of a relationship is having someone on your side who can help you when things are going really wrong and you feel awful.

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It’s part of the emotional bond of a relationship. So if he’s not interested in comforting you or helping you when you feel down, he’s cutting off one of the most important ways to connect emotionally in your relationship – and it’s a sign that he could be thinking of cutting ties altogether.

6. He Really Tries To Hurt You When You’re Fighting

Everyone fights differently. One rule about successful couples is that they usually fight to solve a problem, instead of hurt each other.

That’s why it’s important to compare how you fight now to how you used to fight.

If fights in your relationship with him always eventually turned dirty and had one or both people saying mean things to each other, this isn’t such a big sign since nothing has really changed.

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But if your fights used to be pretty reasonable, and have turned nasty, that’s a sign of a lot of negative emotions like anger and frustration about the relationship bubbling up in him, and that could definitely tear a relationship apart.

7. He’s Gotten Really Selfish And Stopped Putting In Effort

This is one of those signs where it’s up to you to decide what you want from the relationship.

Like I said before, this could just be him taking the relationship for granted and testing boundaries. If you make it clear that it’s not acceptable to you, he might shape up.

But if he shows no intentions of putting in more effort even after you make your needs clear, that’s a big sign that he’s not interested in doing what it takes to continue the relationship.

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8. You’ve Totally Stopped Having Sex

Obviously, in almost every relationship your sex life slows down as the relationship goes on.

Every person is different, and everyone has different needs when it comes to intimacy in a relationship. The most important thing is that both partners feel like their needs and preferences are being met.

So if you’ve stopped having sex altogether – it’s a big sign that unless neither of you really wants sex in the first place, the intimacy in the relationship could be falling apart.

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9. It Seems Like He’s In A Really Bad Mood All The Time

Like we talked about before, relationships are only as good as they feel.

If it doesn’t feel good to be with each other, the relationship doesn’t have much to stand on. After all, why choose to spend a ton of your time with another person who it doesn’t feel good to be with?

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This is another sign that might not mean things are over if he’s going through lots of tough stuff in his life. If he’s under a lot of stress then it makes total sense why he might be in a bad mood.

But if he’s not going through anything in particular and it seems like he’s always in a bad mood when he’s around you – that’s a big sign that he doesn’t really want to be with you anymore.

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In summary…

These 9 Signs Mean He Doesn’t Want To Be With You Anymore

  1. It seems like everything you do annoys him.
  2. He’s closed himself off from you and stopped sharing.
  3. He’s totally stopped texting you back.
  4. All of a sudden he needs lots of “space” in the relationship.
  5. He doesn’t help you when you’re hurting.
  6. He really tries to hurt you when you’re fighting.
  7. He’s gotten really selfish and stopped putting in effort.
  8. You’ve totally stopped having sex.
  9. It seems like he’s in a really bad mood all the time.

biggest signs he doesnt want to be with you anymore might not love you

45 comments… add one
  • Mikaela Stewart February 12, 2018, 5:58 pm

    he says if i love him i would clean the room. or he gets mad at me when i cry

  • Thando January 21, 2018, 7:47 am

    Me to I am on the same he says he loves me but action speaks different and we have a baby daughter please help me I love him.

  • Olga January 15, 2018, 4:35 pm

    I love him. I want to be with him badly. But he don’t want me back. It hurts so much((( I really want to die. He said i’m not good enough for him.

    • Qwudasha February 17, 2018, 9:51 pm

      Never Feel Like you Want to Die Because Of A Guy I know it May not seem Like it but You will find Someone For you later in Life.

  • Priscilla Hye January 15, 2018, 3:51 pm

    I been with my boyfriend for almost 5yeras lately he been kinda distamce .today i followed him to room ask if i irritate him and he snap and said u always do this to me im just relaxing .i tell him i feel alone in tjis house like ur not even here and wanted to know if i did anuthing to keep u distance or if he losing entrance in me and i walked out room.10mins later he walks out in good mood like im up now .im confuse is it me or is he manipulating please

    • Priscilla Hye January 15, 2018, 3:54 pm

      And i forgot to say i always use to go places
      With him to wwatch the game we were like bonnie and clyed now its all bout him goin alone to his buddy that hoes around. .

  • Feli January 12, 2018, 3:34 am

    It really hurts to read this cause my man is not coming to see me anymore, and told me that if I went to his parents place they will chase me like a dog. It really hurts cause he doesn’t even want me to break up with him I don’t know what to do

  • Denise January 9, 2018, 12:16 pm

    I have almost 90% off these actions towards me..ive been with this person for 5 yrs..time to truly ” rip off this bandaid” its gonna hurt..but ill be alright in time

  • may December 13, 2017, 8:09 am

    I was crying and he got MAD…..? I expressed my feeling and he says “you do this…”or “I hate it when you do this” I’m sad….why would he be mad while I’m crying in front of him?

    • Qwudasha February 17, 2018, 9:52 pm

      let him Go Trust me

  • Fancy November 6, 2017, 5:04 am

    Every comment on here it’s true….I recently went through a really bad break up and he just admitted he is dating another woman. signs were there but I ignored it because I love him…..
    Worst pain….thanks guys!

  • Pranita October 19, 2017, 11:52 am

    I don’t want to live :'(

    • Leelee January 13, 2018, 8:58 am

      Yes, you do want to live. I understand the feeling, however pull yourself together and work on healing. Do things you enjoy doing and keep busy. It takes time, but you will be ok.

      • Qwudasha February 17, 2018, 9:53 pm

        You Do Want to Live Sometimes Life gets so Hard that you Want to give up But you Don’t give up you keep going you push through everything will be better in time I promise

  • jennifer September 28, 2017, 5:41 pm

    when he stops caring about how you are, how your days was, and all those little things…he might not want/love you anymore.

  • sienna September 27, 2017, 2:15 pm

    when there’s no more sexy time and not even flirting, he might not be interested anymore. he might even be getting them from another woman, better be aware of his actions.

  • lucia September 7, 2017, 5:31 pm

    when he stops texting you, there must be a reason. but if does that on purpose, he might not want you anymore.

  • perla September 6, 2017, 5:14 pm

    you know he might not love you anymore when you feel like he isn’t as open anymore, or worse if he’s really closed off from you.

  • corey August 23, 2017, 6:49 pm

    if he seems to be so annoyed by everything you do, or even just your presence… he might not really be interested anymore

    • Qwudasha February 17, 2018, 9:53 pm

      I. Feel like this at Times it’s the worst

  • alisha August 20, 2017, 7:58 pm

    one thing i realized is that men can be as honest as can be when it comes to this matter. if he tells you he’s dating someone else, chances are he’s telling the truth

  • aurelia August 16, 2017, 4:09 pm

    i’ve been in this situation before. he’ll start to show very subtle signs that will escalate day by day without reason at all. my ex started showing anger and indifference and it took me a while to recognize them. this post is really good to share so we’ll all be aware before things get worse.

  • ingrid August 15, 2017, 7:13 am

    very sad but all of these are accurate and proven to be true

  • shiloh August 7, 2017, 1:23 am

    when a guy suddenly gets annoyed easily and gets all cranky with almost everything you do, it’s a sure sign he may be losing interest or even his love for you.

  • arianna August 2, 2017, 1:20 pm

    he may not love you anymore when he stops texting/calling you and he seems to not care at all anymore.

  • melanie July 30, 2017, 11:21 pm

    all of these are true, i’ve seen them all from my ex boyfriend.

  • margaret July 23, 2017, 11:58 pm

    he’ll start to be getting irritated so easily even when you didn’t do anything wrong.

  • sadie July 18, 2017, 10:52 pm

    when he doesn’t even seem to get concerned when you’re hurting, that might be it.

  • sawyer July 17, 2017, 11:55 pm

    these are all accurate. ill send this to my friends,

  • veronica July 16, 2017, 4:26 pm

    a man asking for some space does not necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. this may mean you need to talk to him and ask properly before concluding on negative things.

  • rachelle July 10, 2017, 7:23 pm

    he doesn’t want to be with you if he doesn’t care about how you feel at all

  • caroline July 9, 2017, 1:33 pm

    if a guy doesn’t love you anymore, he would stop making an effort and make sure you see and feel it.

  • amanda July 4, 2017, 4:41 pm

    i agree. if a man loves you, he won’t be able to do any of these to you.

  • pilar June 29, 2017, 1:27 pm

    if he doesn’t care nor even bother taking care of you, he must really be out of love for you.

  • avery June 28, 2017, 11:46 pm

    these are all true. too sad but definitely accurate

  • analy June 27, 2017, 10:28 am

    i appreciate what you said here. thank you.

  • florence June 25, 2017, 3:30 pm

    when you know he isn’t busy at all but he doesn’t text you back anymore, this might mean he doesn’t want you anymore.

  • julia June 22, 2017, 2:38 pm

    he’d close off himself on you and won’t want to spend time with you anymore

  • karen June 20, 2017, 3:24 pm

    when everything you do seems to annoy him, he might not love you anymore

  • amella June 19, 2017, 11:22 am

    ouch! this is just as painful reading through

  • farrah June 15, 2017, 1:53 pm

    ohmygosh..i would die!! =(

  • iris June 14, 2017, 4:27 pm

    the worst part is when he intentionally tries to hurt your feelings just so you’ll also want out.

  • sloane June 12, 2017, 11:38 pm

    when he stops texting and has gone cold..that’s it.

  • kara June 11, 2017, 11:48 pm

    he seems to be very annoyed by your presence and whatever you do aggravates the situation

  • pia June 7, 2017, 10:53 pm

    this is so sad..but women need to know these signs

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