So you’re here because you’re looking for the signs that he’s ready to settle down with you.
It could be that your gut is telling you yes, and you want someone to independently confirm your suspicions.
It could be that you’re worried he’s never going to want to settle down with you, so you’re looking for anything to hold onto that will tell you “yes, he really is going to settle down soon.”
It could be that you’re just curious, and wondering whether he’s thinking about it or not.
Whatever your reason for wanting to know, I’ve got you covered.
Here are the biggest signs that a guy is ready to settle down with you – if he’s showing you a few of these signs, it means he’s almost definitely ready.
The Most Reliable Signs He’s Ready To Settle Down With You
- He puts you first.
- He’s made a major life decision with you.
- He wants your families to meet each other.
- He seems content with the direction you’re moving together.
- He brings up the future with you.
- You’re a big priority to him.
- You guys talk about money stuff.
- He’d rather stay in and hang out with you.
- He can be his true vulnerable self around you.
1. He Puts You First
A guy who puts you first is a guy who wants to be with you for the long haul.
Whether it’s compromising, or going out of his way to make your life easier, or taking your input to heart and changing his plans – a guy who shows you that your opinion matters is a guy who wants to plan a life with you.
When he puts you first, he’s telling you that you’re important to him, that your feelings and opinions matter more to him than other people’s.
Guys pretty much don’t mess around when they find someone that makes them feel that way. They tend to settle down pretty quickly.
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2. He’s Made A Major Life Decision With You
Maybe you two got a dog or a cat together. Maybe you’re thinking about buying a house (or already bought one). Maybe you moved cities and he moved with you (or vice versa).
Sometimes decisions like that are dress rehearsals for the question of “do I want to really settle down with this person and spend our lives together?”
So things like getting a dog together give him a way to see how you work through shared responsibilities… and they also deepen your bond for each other.
If you’re making major life decisions together, it’s a huge sign that he’s ready to settle down with you (and is in fact already in the process of doing so).
3. He Wants Your Families To Meet Each Other
Marriage isn’t just marrying another person – it’s also marrying their family.
And by extension, that means that your family and his family are going to be a lot closer than they are currently.
So if he’s trying to do things to bring your families together, it’s a huge sign that he’s looking to deepen your relationship and really settle down with you.
After all, bringing families together can be a stressful and maybe even terrifying experience. He wouldn’t want either of you to have to go through that unless he really was serious about you.
4. He Seems Content With The Direction You’re Moving Together
This one doesn’t apply if your direction is “floating aimlessly in a weird status quo where things never seem to progress.”
But if you’ve gone from strangers, to casually dating, to more seriously dating, to exclusively dating, to maybe living together or an even deeper relationship…
And he seems really content, happy, and excited to keep moving along that track and strengthening your relationship…
…it’s a pretty strong sign that he’s happy to settle down with you.
5. He Brings Up The Future With You
Some guys like to plan and others like to take things as they come.
But when you’re sharing your life with another person, to some extent you have to plan what’s going to happen in the future or else you run into all sorts of complications and things get messy.
So if he’s not only willing but actually reaching out to you to plan the future (whether it’s something you’re going to be doing a few months down the line), or he’s explicitly talking to you about your future together – that’s a huge sign that yes, he’s thrilled to settle down with you.
6. You’re A Big Priority To Him
This ties right in with #1.
If you’re a priority to him, it means he’s not just thinking of himself when he makes decisions. He’s also thinking of how that decision will affect you, and whether it will be good for BOTH of you or not.
I’m not saying that he has to make you his absolute number one priority in order for him to be ready to settle down – guys (and women) juggle priorities all the time.
What matters is that you’re a big priority to him – that he considers you even when he could just move ahead and act without thinking.
A guy who makes room in his life for you is a guy who wants to be with you for the long haul.
7. You Guys Talk About Money Stuff
When you’re casually dating, there’s obviously no room in the relationship to talk about finances, because who cares? Your finances are totally separate.
But if you get to the stage where you’re sharing expenses and maybe even living together, money becomes a mutual topic.
If he’s talking money with you, it means he trusts you and wants to be open financially with each other. If that’s the case, he’s serious about you – and it’s a huge step towards settling down.
8. He’d Rather Stay In And Hang Out With You
Yes, as people get older, the prospect of staying in becomes infinitely more appealing than going out.
Sometimes, the couch and Netflix with your significant other is the best date you can imagine.
This is a gradual shift that happens in people’s lives, but it’s also a pretty strong indicator of where his priorities are and how he chooses to spend his time.
If more and more, he wants to spend time with you at home rather than going out, it means that he loves being around you. That’s a HUGE sign that he’s not only ready to settle down, he’s already actively in the process of doing it.
9. He Can Be His True Vulnerable Self Around You
Guys aren’t dumb. They know how rare it is to find someone who they can be truly authentic with.
If he feels he can be his true, authentic self around you – without judgment, without censoring himself, and without worrying that you won’t like it – it feels amazing.
(Just like it feels amazing when you can be your true, authentic self around him and know that he likes that person and wants to be with that person.)
Guys who get a taste of that don’t give it up. The person who makes them feel that way becomes very, very special to them.
So if he feels that way with you, and he allows himself to be vulnerable around you – it’s a massive (maybe the biggest) sign that he’s more than ready to settle down with you.
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