The 5 Most Common Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore

The 5 Most Common Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore

… (Previous page – The 5 Most Common Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore) refuses to sit down at the table at all. If he makes you feel like a crazy, clingy girlfriend for bringing up the future – it’s his problem, not yours.

You shouldn’t have to deal with a guy who has such deep issues about commitment that he won’t even discuss it with you. If he makes you feel bad for talking about a more committed relationship, he’s not the guy for you.

4. His friends are jerks to you for no reason

Feel like you’re always the odd one out with his friends? Do you never feel comfortable around them and you don’t know why?

That’s a big issue. There’s really two possibilities here:

Either A: His friends are all huge jerks, or B: His friends don’t want to open up to you because they know he’s always moving from woman to woman and no one girlfriend sticks around for long.

Either way, that’s a major red flag for the future of your relationship. Ignore it at your own risk.

5. He doesn’t make you feel good when you’re with him

There’s a really simple test to apply to any relationship to see if it’s worth its salt:

When you’re around him, does he focus on making you feel good? Or does he tear you down?

If he spends his time trying to make you feel not so great about yourself, get the hell out of there as quickly as you can. A good guy would never tear his partner down – he’s always trying to build her up and make her feel amazing about herself.

It’s only the crappy losers that put their girlfriends down to feel better about themselves, and they’re all toxic to a man. It’s not worth spending one second of your day with a d-bag like that.


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27 comments… add one
  • NIKITA ANDINDA July 26, 2016, 5:05 am

    Sometimes wen you really love somebody you tend to intentionally ignore these red flags,especially if his the type that enjoys getting you jealous even after you’ve talked about it with him he still does it anyway!

  • Lora Dumbleton   July 31, 2015, 12:39 pm

    I was one of those that did not see the signs. After 10 years of marriage it is finally over, but it was a tough go during that time for sure. Wish I would have read this many years ago!

  • Maisha Olmsted   July 31, 2015, 12:31 pm

    These are very obvious as well. I am in a relationship right now that might require me to look a little closer for these flags, do you have any tips for me?

  • Irene Graham July 29, 2015, 2:29 pm

    I am not sure a “brick in the face” type of sign like these could be ignored. If you do ignore them, you are asking for trouble.

  • Abigail May July 29, 2015, 2:17 pm

    When my friends used to ask if the “future” was ever brought up and freaked when I said no, I didn’t think it was that big of deal. It has been a few years we are together now, should we be talking about any type of future?

  • Madeleine Edmunds July 28, 2015, 11:33 am

    Very good list. Speaking from experience, there are many woman out there that would benefit from this list way before they meet ANY man!

  • Alexandra Newman July 28, 2015, 11:21 am

    I don’t know if him making me jealous for the first time is a red flag. Maybe I just like him enough that I get different feelings with stuff like that.

  • Jennifer Lewis July 25, 2015, 6:20 pm

    I have a friend. She is dating this guy that does not belong with her and I even think he beats her a little, but she refuses to leave him. Is there something that I can do to help her?

  • Vanessa Lawrence July 25, 2015, 6:09 pm

    A guy that has friends that act like jerks to you are not acceptable in my opinion. They need to appreciate that he chose you and there is no more to it.

    • Bernadette Baker July 30, 2015, 1:32 pm

      I agree. I have told him that if his friends are not going to change then he has to change himself. At some point you have to grow up.

  • Lisa Payne July 25, 2015, 5:47 pm

    Everyone hates a red flag, but if they are going to be right in your face, how can you ignore them?

    • Wendy Bailey July 25, 2015, 5:57 pm

      You would think it would be pretty tough, however, there are plenty of woman out there that cannot seem to find the red flags right in front of their faces.

  • Tracey Blake July 23, 2015, 9:13 am

    Great list! These red flags are some of the same that I teach in my self esteem class at the local woman’s shelter. They have been learning a lot. It is just sad that someone had to “teach” them to see them.

  • Victoria Underwood July 22, 2015, 9:29 am

    I would say that if you are not hearing SOMETHING about the future after a year, that would be time to evaluate the relationship, don’t you think?

  • Jane Chapman July 21, 2015, 9:10 am

    I would never point out a red flag to another woman in most cases, but THESE are ones that you are obligated to point out if the person has not figured it out for themselves.

    • Joan Arnold July 23, 2015, 9:24 am

      I agree. If you are a true friend, THESE are the red flags that you help with there i no doubt about that!

  • Theresa Fisher July 21, 2015, 8:56 am

    I, too, dealt with a guy that had jerks as friends. He was not like them, however and I was pleased to have noticed that. We have been married for 4 years next month :)

  • Samantha Henderson July 19, 2015, 1:09 pm

    I love it when people say they don’t get jealous. It just takes the right type of person to bring it out of you, but EVERYONE gets that way one way or another.

  • Ella Morrison July 19, 2015, 12:58 pm

    It makes me sad to read this post, but it is true. The red flags are there and they are ones that you should not have to ignore.

    • Margarita Porter July 30, 2015, 1:42 pm

      I have a friend or two that would not see these signs coming in a million years. I guess they are lucky they have a friend like me to show them :)

  • Lisa Blake July 18, 2015, 9:40 am

    Jerky friends are usually a mirror of the person that you are when you are not with me. That is a big red flag for me.

  • Vanessa Thomson July 18, 2015, 9:15 am

    I wouldn’t expect a guy to talk about the future right away, but it would be nice at some point.

  • Megan Reid July 17, 2015, 12:18 pm

    Personally, I am not sure how anyone could ignore these.

    • Leah Hughes July 22, 2015, 10:01 am

      Yup. But there is always one and we all know at least one that would not see these types of things coming right at them.

  • Felicity Terry July 17, 2015, 12:15 pm

    Very RED flags here. Usually easy to see and very hard to deal with if you are truly in love with this person.

  • Pippa Parsons July 16, 2015, 4:33 pm

    These red flags might seem obvious, but you would be surprised how many woman I talk to that seem to have NO clue!

  • Natalie Avery July 16, 2015, 4:32 pm

    Well, if my man is on about is ex more than a FEW times, there is a red flag that is slapping me in the face for sure!

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