Ladies – I don’t mean to be negative, but I’ve noticed a lot of you making some relationship mistakes that are easily avoidable.
I’m talking about spending months, even years with a guy who’s throwing out all kinds of red flags that mean he’s going to break your heart – only you don’t see them.
And you know what? I’m tired of it. It’s so unnecessary and avoidable.
Couples need to stop doing these 8 things.
I’m tired of seeing women get hurt in relationships because they’re overlooking (or even flat out missing) the red flags that mean trouble is on its way.
So in that spirit, here are the 5 most overlooked red flags in guys that will eventually wind up hurting you:
1. He won’t stop talking about his ex
OK – I know that every guy out there has baggage from past relationships. Every woman does too.
Unless you guys hooked up freshman year of high school and stayed together ever since, you’ve both dated other people and have exes. Which is fine and normal. Understanding your partner’s romantic past is part of any normal, healthy, stable relationship.
What’s not normal is if he’s constantly bringing up ex-girlfriends and wives in conversation with you. especially if he’s being spiteful about it and insulting them, or trying to hurt you by comparing you to them.
This is a sign that he’s not actually over his ex, and that no matter what you do or how good your relationship is, he’s always going to compare you to her in a negative way. Ditch him and let him get over his baggage issues on his own.
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2. He makes you jealous – and you’re not normally jealous
If you feel jealous in all your relationships, this isn’t a red flag for him, it’s a red flag for you.
But if you’re not normally the jealous type, and yet he’s making you feel 10 shades of jealousy when you’re with him, something’s off here.
Chances are, if you’re always worried he’s with someone else when he’s not with you, and you’re not the jealous type, it’s because he’s giving you reason to be jealous. And that’s seriously not OK.
When two people are in a relationship that works, they trust each other. Without trust, happy long lasting relationships simply aren’t possible. If you find yourself unable to trust him, it’s for a good reason, and it’s time for him to go.
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3. He refuses to discuss the future
After you’ve been together with someone for 12 weeks or more, things are getting decently serious, and the question of the future should be addressed. Even if you’re not on the same page, having a discussion where both of you put your cards on the table about what you expect is good for your relationship.
What’s not good is if he