The 5 Most Common Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore

The 5 Most Common Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore

Ladies – I don’t mean to be negative, but I’ve noticed a lot of you making some relationship mistakes that are easily avoidable.

I’m talking about spending months, even years with a guy who’s throwing out all kinds of red flags that mean he’s going to break your heart – only you don’t see them.

And you know what? I’m tired of it. It’s so unnecessary and avoidable.

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I’m tired of seeing women get hurt in relationships because they’re overlooking (or even flat out missing) the red flags that mean trouble is on its way.

So in that spirit, here are the 5 most overlooked red flags in guys that will eventually wind up hurting you:

1. He won’t stop talking about his ex

OK – I know that every guy out there has baggage from past relationships. Every woman does too.

Unless you guys hooked up freshman year of high school and stayed together ever since, you’ve both dated other people and have exes. Which is fine and normal. Understanding your partner’s romantic past is part of any normal, healthy, stable relationship.

What’s not normal is if he’s constantly bringing up ex-girlfriends and wives in conversation with you. especially if he’s being spiteful about it and insulting them, or trying to hurt you by comparing you to them.

This is a sign that he’s not actually over his ex, and that no matter what you do or how good your relationship is, he’s always going to compare you to her in a negative way. Ditch him and let him get over his baggage issues on his own.

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2. He makes you jealous – and you’re not normally jealous

If you feel jealous in all your relationships, this isn’t a red flag for him, it’s a red flag for you.

But if you’re not normally the jealous type, and yet he’s making you feel 10 shades of jealousy when you’re with him, something’s off here.

Chances are, if you’re always worried he’s with someone else when he’s not with you, and you’re not the jealous type, it’s because he’s giving you reason to be jealous. And that’s seriously not OK.

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3. He refuses to discuss the future

After you’ve been together with someone for 12 weeks or more, things are getting decently serious, and the question of the future should be addressed. Even if you’re not on the same page, having a discussion where both of you put your cards on the table about what you expect is good for your relationship.

What’s not good is if he … (continued – Click to keep reading The 5 Most Common Red Flags Women Shouldn’t Ignore)

27 comments… add one
  • NIKITA ANDINDA July 26, 2016, 5:05 am

    Sometimes wen you really love somebody you tend to intentionally ignore these red flags,especially if his the type that enjoys getting you jealous even after you’ve talked about it with him he still does it anyway!

  • Lora Dumbleton   July 31, 2015, 12:39 pm

    I was one of those that did not see the signs. After 10 years of marriage it is finally over, but it was a tough go during that time for sure. Wish I would have read this many years ago!

  • Maisha Olmsted   July 31, 2015, 12:31 pm

    These are very obvious as well. I am in a relationship right now that might require me to look a little closer for these flags, do you have any tips for me?

  • Irene Graham July 29, 2015, 2:29 pm

    I am not sure a “brick in the face” type of sign like these could be ignored. If you do ignore them, you are asking for trouble.

  • Abigail May July 29, 2015, 2:17 pm

    When my friends used to ask if the “future” was ever brought up and freaked when I said no, I didn’t think it was that big of deal. It has been a few years we are together now, should we be talking about any type of future?

  • Madeleine Edmunds July 28, 2015, 11:33 am

    Very good list. Speaking from experience, there are many woman out there that would benefit from this list way before they meet ANY man!

  • Alexandra Newman July 28, 2015, 11:21 am

    I don’t know if him making me jealous for the first time is a red flag. Maybe I just like him enough that I get different feelings with stuff like that.

  • Jennifer Lewis July 25, 2015, 6:20 pm

    I have a friend. She is dating this guy that does not belong with her and I even think he beats her a little, but she refuses to leave him. Is there something that I can do to help her?

  • Vanessa Lawrence July 25, 2015, 6:09 pm

    A guy that has friends that act like jerks to you are not acceptable in my opinion. They need to appreciate that he chose you and there is no more to it.

    • Bernadette Baker July 30, 2015, 1:32 pm

      I agree. I have told him that if his friends are not going to change then he has to change himself. At some point you have to grow up.

  • Lisa Payne July 25, 2015, 5:47 pm

    Everyone hates a red flag, but if they are going to be right in your face, how can you ignore them?

    • Wendy Bailey July 25, 2015, 5:57 pm

      You would think it would be pretty tough, however, there are plenty of woman out there that cannot seem to find the red flags right in front of their faces.

  • Tracey Blake July 23, 2015, 9:13 am

    Great list! These red flags are some of the same that I teach in my self esteem class at the local woman’s shelter. They have been learning a lot. It is just sad that someone had to “teach” them to see them.

  • Victoria Underwood July 22, 2015, 9:29 am

    I would say that if you are not hearing SOMETHING about the future after a year, that would be time to evaluate the relationship, don’t you think?

  • Jane Chapman July 21, 2015, 9:10 am

    I would never point out a red flag to another woman in most cases, but THESE are ones that you are obligated to point out if the person has not figured it out for themselves.

    • Joan Arnold July 23, 2015, 9:24 am

      I agree. If you are a true friend, THESE are the red flags that you help with there i no doubt about that!

  • Theresa Fisher July 21, 2015, 8:56 am

    I, too, dealt with a guy that had jerks as friends. He was not like them, however and I was pleased to have noticed that. We have been married for 4 years next month :)

  • Samantha Henderson July 19, 2015, 1:09 pm

    I love it when people say they don’t get jealous. It just takes the right type of person to bring it out of you, but EVERYONE gets that way one way or another.

  • Ella Morrison July 19, 2015, 12:58 pm

    It makes me sad to read this post, but it is true. The red flags are there and they are ones that you should not have to ignore.

    • Margarita Porter July 30, 2015, 1:42 pm

      I have a friend or two that would not see these signs coming in a million years. I guess they are lucky they have a friend like me to show them :)

  • Lisa Blake July 18, 2015, 9:40 am

    Jerky friends are usually a mirror of the person that you are when you are not with me. That is a big red flag for me.

  • Vanessa Thomson July 18, 2015, 9:15 am

    I wouldn’t expect a guy to talk about the future right away, but it would be nice at some point.

  • Megan Reid July 17, 2015, 12:18 pm

    Personally, I am not sure how anyone could ignore these.

    • Leah Hughes July 22, 2015, 10:01 am

      Yup. But there is always one and we all know at least one that would not see these types of things coming right at them.

  • Felicity Terry July 17, 2015, 12:15 pm

    Very RED flags here. Usually easy to see and very hard to deal with if you are truly in love with this person.

  • Pippa Parsons July 16, 2015, 4:33 pm

    These red flags might seem obvious, but you would be surprised how many woman I talk to that seem to have NO clue!

  • Natalie Avery July 16, 2015, 4:32 pm

    Well, if my man is on about is ex more than a FEW times, there is a red flag that is slapping me in the face for sure!

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