You’re here because you want to know the biggest signs that he’s serious about you.
Maybe you’re starting to get fluttery feelings in your stomach that remind you of butterflies that maybe, just maybe, he could be the real deal.
Maybe you’re really catching feelings for him, but you’re worried about getting your heart broken, so you’re looking for signs that he could be as serious about you as you feel about him.
Maybe you just don’t know where the relationship is going, and you want to know how to tell if a guy is serious.
No problem – I’ve got you covered.
In this article I’m going to give you the biggest signs that a guy is serious about you – and by extension serious about the relationship.
So no matter if you’re worried you’re in too deep and don’t know how he feels; we’re going to figure it out together.
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8 Telltale Signs He’s Serious About You
- You’re a priority to him.
- He’s genuinely curious about you.
- He listens to your opinion.
- He’s open and honest with you.
- You feel like he’s being his genuine real self around you.
- He wants to share his passions with you.
- He keeps his promises to you and doesn’t flake.
- He wants you to meet his friends and family.
1. You’re A Priority To Him
If a guy is serious about you, and serious about making you a bigger part of his life, he’s going to make you a priority.
What does that look like? It means that he treats you like an important part of his life, and not like an afterthought.
What does that not look like? Him making you a priority doesn’t mean he’s going to put you first in every situation. It doesn’t mean that he’s going to drop everything in order to spend all his time with you.
It means that he’s going to treat you as important to him – that he’s going to make time for you even when time is tight.
So if you can tell he’s making an effort to make time for you, even when he’s got a lot going on – that’s a very good sign that he’s serious about you.
2. He’s Genuinely Curious About You
An easy way to tell how a guy really feels about a woman is in the depth of his curiosity about her.
If a guy is serious about a woman, he’s wondering whether she’s the real deal – whether she’s someone he can really see himself being with long term.
Guys aren’t stupid. In a situation like that, he’s going to first and foremost try to find out more about her.
Is she kind? What kind of things does she like to do? What’s her true personality like? What are her goals, her dreams, the things she wants to do with her life? Are we compatible?
Any guy who’s really serious about you is going to be curious to find out more about you – for good reason.
3. He Listens To Your Opinion
The foundation of any successful relationship is respect.
Respect grows out of mutual admiration and trust in each other. It grows when each partner sees things to admire in the other.
So if he’s asking you your opinion on decisions he has to make, that’s a very good sign. And if he’s taking your opinion into consideration and changing his own because of it, that’s even better.
We all have things we’re good at, so he’s going to count your opinion more on something he knows you’re passionate about that he’s not – same as you would discount his opinion a little on something you’re passionate about and you know he’s not… but would take his opinion seriously on something you know way less about.
So watch to see whether he takes your opinion seriously. If he does, it’s a good sign he’s serious about you.
4. He’s Open And Honest With You
#3 in this list is all about respect. This one is all about trust.
Without trust, a long term relationship cannot work. A relationship without mutual trust will fall apart every time.
The way you earn someone’s trust isn’t all at once – it’s a gradual process. It happens when you come through over and over again.
Coming through for someone means something different to everyone and in every different situation. In this one what it means is that he’s able to be open with you, and trust you to accept his honesty – even if it’s something you might not want to hear.
When a guy can trust a woman enough to be open and honest with her, it’s a big, big deal. It instantly makes him feel way more serious about you and about the relationship – because guys know how rare that is.
5. You Feel Like He’s Being His Genuine Real Self Around You
This ties in with #4.
The best relationships that last the longest work because both partners are able to be their true, genuine selves around each other… and really like each other for who they truly are.
If you feel like you can’t be yourself around him (or vice versa), eventually the relationship is going to fall apart when the strain of being who you think he wants you to be becomes too much.
That’s why it’s so important to get comfortable being genuine around each other – and seeing if you like who your partner is when he’s being genuine.
If he’s able to show you his true self and you really enjoy that person, it’s a massive sign that you’re really compatible – and it will make him very, very serious about you.
6. He Wants To Share His Passions With You
A guy who’s serious about a woman is going to be feeling out whether there’s long term potential there.
One important aspect of long term potential in a relationship is whether both people are interested in or enjoy the same things.
Obviously – this isn’t a complete dealbreaker: I’ve known couples where they don’t really like each other’s hobbies, but their connection is so good that they don’t mind.
But in most cases, a guy who’s serious about you is going to share the things he’s passionate about with you, because he’s going to want to show you more of who he really is.
A man’s passions help define who he is (just like the things you’re passionate about help show people who you really are). If he’s sharing them with you, it means he wants to share who he truly is with you… because he’s serious about you.
7. He Keeps His Promises To You And Doesn’t Flake
This ties right in with being a priority in his life.
When a guy is serious about a woman, he doesn’t want to disappoint her. She becomes more and more important to him.
How does a guy show you that you’re important to him? He makes sure to come through for you when he promises something, and he does his absolute best not to flake on you.
So if you can tell that your man makes a huge effort to never flake on you and keeps his promises to you… it’s because he’s serious about your relationship.
8. He Wants You To Meet His Friends And Family
When you get into a really serious relationship with a guy, you become integrated into his life – just like he becomes integrated into yours.
That means that his relationships with his friends and family now include you – which is a huge step.
So if a guy wants to introduce you to his friends and family, he’s trying to figure out how well you get along, and how well you integrate into his life.
It’s a big step towards a serious, committed relationship, so if he’s making a point of getting you to meet his friends and family, it’s because he’s thinking about you seriously and getting serious about your relationship.
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